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Therapy for Women
“Everyone has expectations of me.
I don’t know what to do.”
“I care for others but I feel alone and exhausted, and no one seems to care.”
“I’ve done (Mostly) everything I was supposed to do. WHy am I unhappy?”
many Women feel this way!
And there are real, valid reasons - and real solutions.
Girls are taught from a young age to be aware of other people, particularly in the south, particularly in religious contexts. But the lessons we learn alongside this awareness of others is that we are never trained to be aware of ourselves. That’s selfish, right? Nope. You’re just as valid and valuable a person as anyone else.
Your needs are not a problem.
Then relationships come into the mix and our general culture presents dating as the magic solution to feeling whole, but it’s a fine line to walk to do it “right”. Red flags, green flags, purity, commitment - it’s confusing. So this thing that’s supposed to be wonderful feels hard, painful, emotional, uncertain and we start to wonder if we’re the problem.
You are not A problem.
And now you’re in adulthood. Maybe you’re recently independent (or trying to be) and find the responsibilities overwhelming but either feel very alone to figure it out OR have too many opinions that you’re somehow expected to fulfill for everyone else. You don’t actually feel free to make your choices for one reason or another. Or maybe you’re further into adulthood, juggling your career, family life, marital stress, divorce or aging parents. (Maybe all of the above.) I bet you know something needs to change but you’re either afraid of what you think you should do OR really lost as to why your life feels so bad so you don’t know where to start.
I would love to help you find clarity and peace.
I’m here to help with:
+ self doubt/self esteem
+ Grief & loss
+ People-Pleasing
+ Perfectionism
+ anxiety
+ relational stress
+ Career issues
+ Codependency
Consider
Your assumptions
What do you believe about yourself and your place in the world? Where did you get those ideas? You got a roadmap from someone along the way, but where do you want to go?
identify
Your experience
You are you. No one else is. You have the insight to understand what you’ve experienced and you get to decide what it means to you. What do you think?
Pursue
Your
priorities
No matter what has happened before now, your life still belongs to you. What do you dream about, even if you have no idea how to get there? How do you want to feel? How do you want to interact with others? You can change anything.
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Absolutely, yes! I value every individual and admire the integrity it takes to be honest about yourself when others can be such jerks about it. I, myself, am no such jerk. I’d love to participate in your pursuit of authenticity and relationships that feel good.
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No, I’m open to any adult who resonates with a need to do some deep reflection and desires change.
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I come from a feminist perspective that recognizes the negative messaging and dehumanization that tends to be common in women’s experience in patriarchal structures. I can’t change a whole society, but we individual women can recognize how our participation in certain systems has contributed to our own discomfort and how we can break free of some of those restrictions OR how we can embody our own values and find freedom regardless of setting. It’s not our fault, especially when we were raised in restrictive environments, but we don’t have to follow along forever.
You don’t have to agree with me or adopt my values as part of therapy. It’s just that I have this perspective that I can use to help you gain new insight into what you may have assumed was a positive experience, that actually has resulted in your distress.